Good Morning Yinz Guys and Happy Monday! How was your weekend? Mine was pretty chill. Today for Mental Health Monday I want to hit you guys with a few facts when it comes to mental health and who suffers from it. One of the things that have helped me get through my day to day when it comes to dealing with my mental health is knowing that I’m not the only person who is going through these things. And so I thought I would share some stats that my therapist shared with me a few weekends ago about who is dealing with mental health, she originally gave it to me to help with explaining my mental health status and what they can do to help. So here are some facts…(stats were pulled directly from the National Alliance on Mental Illness aka NAMI website here.) Continue reading “Mental Health Monday: The Facts…You Are Not Alone”
***Good Morning Yinz Guys! This past Monday I introduced one of the many new series I want to bring to this hear blog called “Mental Health Monday” if you haven’t read it yet you can read it here. The second series I want to introduce is what I call “Feel Good Friday’s” where I will share post that are motivational. It may be something I’ve written up myself or a quote I found. Either way, I want to use Friday’s as a way to send good vibes to Yinz Guys so we can start the weekend on a good note. I hope you enjoy.***
You are more than your shortcomings and downfalls. You are more than the negative things people have to say about you and your mistakes. You are more than Your diagnoses and your illness. You are more than your past and who you use to be. You are more than that job you hate, and you are more than the lack of money you have. You are more than your degrees or lack of degrees. You are more than your relationship status and you are more than who you have dated. Continue reading “Feel Good Friday’s: You Are More Than Your Short Comings”
Mental Health Monday: Over-Explaining
***This is my first post for a new blog series I will be calling Mental Health Monday where I share my journey to healthier mental health. I hope you not only enjoy these post but take something as well.***
I have a horrible habit of over-explaining and trying to force people to understand what I’m trying to say. Especially when it comes to the men I’ve dated. So what is I trying to make sure there is no miscommunication or misunderstanding on how I feel, comes off as me being crazy. I’m not sure why or when exactly i started being like this, but recently it was brought to my attention and well I was taken aback at the thought of someone thinking I’m crazy. Now…don’t get wrong I can be very passionate when it comes to my relationships, in the sense, I put my all into it. Which is probably why I find myself over explaining my thoughts and feelings, instead of maybe taking a step back and seeing if that’s what he wants to hear at that moment. I’m sure this stems from my fear of breakup/being dropped like I have been so many times. So I feel like, if he knows exactly how much I care about him or how much something affects me…he’ll then understand and this will all end well. I never take into consideration his feelings or his thoughts or his opinions and not because I think I’m right and he’s wrong…but because I get so scared i just start vomiting at the mouth with my emotions. Continue reading “Mental Health Monday: Over-Explaining”
Good Morning Yinz Guys & Happy 1st Day of Spring on this Monday morning to start off the work week right! You prob can’t tell just by reading this…but y’all I’m in such a good mood. There’s a few reasons why but mainly because when I went to bed last night I said “Courtney tomorrow you’re going to have a good day…NO MATTER WHAT. You are going to wake up being thankful and full of gratitude.” And that’s exactly what I did.
I spent this past weekend in bed with a cough, stuffy nose and sore throat. Thankfully by Sunday night I was feeling a lot better, actually the best I have in a few weeks. I’m sure it’s been all the late nights that finally caught up to me. So I really did nothing but lay around, drink some tea and I also finally felt up to washing my hair as well. Another thing I finally got around too was changing my template for the blog(if you haven’t noticed the change then…suprise lol). But since I spent the weekend alone I had a lot of time to think about my future and how much I wanted to accomplish this year. Then I thought about how lucky I am NOW. And even though I may not vocalize it enough I am really THANKFUL for everything that I currently have. But again, like I said…I don’t vocalize it as nearly as much as I do about the things I don’t like that is going on around me. Like not being financially where I want to be, or not enjoying my place of employment. Also lately I’ve been so hard on myself when it comes to my physical appearance. I’ve been lucky enough to have spent the last couple weeks constantly being told how beautiful I am, which normally would have me out in these steeets really feeling myself. But since I turned 32 last month, not only do I not feel like I’m no my best looking self, I’ve also been having a hard time with just responding with a “Thank You” when I’m complimented on my looks. Crazy right? Like here I am meeting someone who has none stop told me how beautiful I am…and I can’t even just say “Thank You”.
Also, when it comes to work, I’m sure my co-worker hates me sometimes lol. Because all it takes is one crappy call to really put me in a bad mood. Then I end up spending the whole shift complaining about EVERYTHING. I’ve even gotten to the point where I hate to even hear myself complaining. So if I’m over my complaining I know she is. So today when I came into work I even made an announcement that today I was going to be extremely positive and full of gratitude for this job that I have. It may not be the job that I wanted but it is not a busy or too stressful of a job which allows me to write and blog in between work. Another thing I’ve noticed is once I start compiling it’s really hard for me to get out of that funk and stop complaining which I also think is a extremely aggravating. So I decided that even if I get frustrated I’m not going to go off on a tangent and allow a little frustration drag me down for the whole day.’
I’m also back to writing in my “Prayer Journal”. When it comes to me and faith I like to treat it as a personal journey. My family on both sides belong to churches and I attended Catholics schools from K-12th grade. So I definitely believe in God and faith…but it might not be in the most traditional way. But there’s one thing I strongly believe in and that’s prayer. So for the past couple of years I’ve kept a prayer journal where I did some bible studying on my own with help of a few books my Grandmother and Aunt from my father’s side got me years ago. (Link books…and explain that you also brought one on your own). I’ve noticed that when I regularly write in it, I feel less anxious, much lighter and a lot calmer. It helps me let go of things and just let them be and trust that things will be alright. Now I’m not the best at always being consistent…but if you’re a long time reader of this blog I’m sure you know this by now lol. But when I am writing in it I like to do it mainly before I go to sleep, and sometimes when I wake up. For it’s the best way to end my day and sometimes start it.
So you’re probably wondering why I’m saying all of this, well because I came across a great quote the other night while scrolling on Pinterest and it triggered me to want to do better when it came to me being thankful and showing more gratitude for the things I do have and stop worrying about what I don’t have…yet. The quote said “It is not happy people who are thankful. It is thankful people who are happy.”. And for some reason that quote just hit me like “WOW”…here I am complaining about having to return to work on Monday and how I hate this or hate that and how unhappy I am cause of these things…when in reality I’m the only one who is in charge of my happiness. And that maybe if I found things to be thankful for I would be a lot happier. So my challenge for this whole week is to make sure I stay happy…no matter what. Now I’m not saying I won’t get upset about something or want to flip a table…I mean cause I’m still human. But I will deal with these situation in a calmer and better manner and not dwell on them and allow them to ruin my whole day. I also challenge you this week to keep a positive mindset and to be thankful for the things you have that make you happy. Also I want to know what are some ways in which you practice thankfulness and gratitude, I would love see what you guys do when you feel like nothing’s going right.
Well that’s all I have for today. Thank you for checking out this #MotivationalMonday post. I hope you all have a great rest of the day and week.
Peace Yinz Guys
This morning, I had a text conversation with my sister and it went a little something like this…
Sister: Good Morning
Me: I was hoping I crashed into a ditch this morning
Sister: OMG I’m cracking up!!! Don’t say that!!!
Me: I really was:
Me: I was also trying to be positive as well
Me: Like at least I have a job
Sister: True! I have to remind myself of that too.
Sister: I also have a problem with thinking I wish I had this and that but I need to be happy with what I have. Continue reading “I’m No Positive Patty…”
And guess what…that’s ok. I spent a lot of my life trying to make sure people liked me. I mean I have always been naturally caring and nice to people because even as a little girl I strongly believed in treating people the way I wanted to be treated. But there have been a few times that I have gone above and beyond to make people like me. And now as I’ve grown and continue to grow older I look back at these moments and think “FOR WHY” lol.
So if you follow me on Instagram you may have seen this already…but I just thought I would share it here for my first #ThoughtfulThursday post. One of my hopes for my blog is to share some of my favorite quotes every Tuesday and Thursday. Why Tuesday and Thursday…well for one they both start with a T and both flow nicely with the word Thoughtful lol. But also because Tuesday is the day after the beginning of the week and Thursday is the day before the ending of the week so I figured we..I could use the inspiration. Also it gives me a reason to use my OVER app on my iPhone a lot more lol.
I hope you enjoy, and remember “BE YOUR OWN INSPIRATION”.
One thing I have learned to love and appreciate more then anything is my alone time. Now I wasn’t always this secure with being by myself, rather it was without being in a relationship or without friends when I was younger I hated the idea of being alone. I use to always surround myself with some type of company, the only downside to that is that when just allowing anyone in your space you tend to allow more negative people who are always looking for opportunities to take advantages of lonely people such as my younger self, then people who genuinely want to be there for you. Continue reading “Being Ok With Being Alone…”
2015…what can I say? Only half way through the year and I feel like I have been through a lifetime of positive events. Learning to let go and let live, to ignore your enemies and to see the greatness in not only others, but also the greatness that is myself. Continue reading “2015, So Far So Good…”
“Moreover, when god gives any man wealth and possessions, and enables him to enjoy them, to accept his lot and be happy in his work—this is a gift of God.” Ecclesiastes 5:19
So today’s word of inspiration was Gratitude, and oh how fitting it was lol. Not only did my mom buy me dinner today…but she also put gas in my car. Being the broke college student I am…I sooooo needed that. Even though we bump heads(a lot) and we tend to see things differently, she still takes care of me and helps me out. I’m super lucky to have her as mom for real.
I can honestly say that I don’t stop enough, and just think about how good I actually have it. I may be a little behind in the game of life according to some people, but I’m up everyday following my dream of being a writer/journalist, and behind me I have a great support system of family and friends. YES I’m currently broke as all hell…but I’m happy! And that’s one thing out of the millions others I have to be “Thankful” for.