Mental Health Monday: Over-Explaining

Mental Health Monday: Over-Explaining

***This is my first post for a new blog series I will be calling Mental Health Monday where I share my journey to healthier mental health. I hope you not only enjoy these post but take something as well.***

I have a horrible habit of over-explaining and trying to force people to understand what I’m trying to say. Especially when it comes to the men I’ve dated. So what is I trying to make sure there is no miscommunication or misunderstanding on how I feel, comes off as me being crazy. I’m not sure why or when exactly i started being like this, but recently it was brought to my attention and well I was taken aback at the thought of someone thinking I’m crazy. Now…don’t get wrong I can be very passionate when it comes to my relationships, in the sense, I put my all into it. Which is probably why I find myself over explaining my thoughts and feelings, instead of maybe taking a step back and seeing if that’s what he wants to hear at that moment. I’m sure this stems from my fear of breakup/being dropped like I have been so many times. So I feel like, if he knows exactly how much I care about him or how much something affects me…he’ll then understand and this will all end well. I never take into consideration his feelings or his thoughts or his opinions and not because I think I’m right and he’s wrong…but because I get so scared i just start vomiting at the mouth with my emotions. Continue reading “Mental Health Monday: Over-Explaining”

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November: A New Routine Is Coming…

Ayyyye Yinz Guys and Happy November 1st! Yes…I’m ignoring the fact that my last post was in July…so yeah lol! But a lot has been going on with me, and I mean A LOT. From my love life to my personal life to my work life. I now work from home full time, I got a promotion and a nice little raise, my mental health has come leaps and bounds and while my physical health has taken a turn for the worse(no I’m not dying thankfully) I’m still here thoting and bopping. And speaking of thoting my love life…it’ still nonexistent. But I will hit on all these topics in their own blog post later this month, I promise. Continue reading “November: A New Routine Is Coming…”

All Summer 17…

Hey Yinz Guys, and Happy Wednesday! So we’ve once again made it to the end of another work week, and if you’re lucky like I am, its Pay Day too. So this friday I wanted to touch on my Summer 2017 Goals. Recently I’ve been so determined to make a ton of lifestyle changes, so I figured writing them down and sharing them on here would how keep me motivated and accountable. So here’s a list of my Summer 17 Goals. These are in no particular order.

  • Go to the gym at least 3x a week
  • Drink more water
  • Get a personal trainer
  • Become a better cook
  • Go back to school
  • New job
  • Save at least $500 dollars by the end of the summer
  • Get my passport(yes I know I’m slacking)
  • Post at least 2x a week on my blog
  • Wake up at 6am every morning on the weekdays and 8m on the weekends
  • Rad at least 3 books this summer
  • Visit Lake Erie at least twice this summer
  • Visit family in Florida
  • Visit DC
  • Visit Philly
  • Make it to at least one music festival
  • Take my medication everyday
  • Journal more
  • Write in my prayer journal twice a day(once in the morning and once at night)
  • Read 1 bible verse a day
  • Make it to at least one Steelers preseason game
  • Take one yoga class a week

So that’s it for my Summer 2017 Goals. So far I’ve been doing really well with making it to the gym and drinking more water. I’ll be looking into getting a personal trainer next month and I’ll be headed to the library this weekend to pick up some new books. So what about you, what are some of your summer goals for this year. I would love to read them in the comment section below, I may even borrow some of them for my own lol. As always, thank you so much for the support.

Peace Yinz Guys
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Just Keep Writing(Finding My Inspiration Again)…

Growing up I use to write nonstop…like every day. Any free time I had I was writing something. Either is was a short story, a chapter story, a poem, letters to God and sometimes letters to my Dad who lived in North Carolina for a few years. It really didn’t matter what I was writing, I just had to write. I specifically remember writing a story that took me days to write, being that I was in grade school at the time most of my writing had to be done after homework was done at an after school program me and my sister attended. I really can’t remember what it was about…but I do remember feeling super attached and determined to write and finish this story. 

As I’ve gotten older not only have I gotten away from constantly writing I’ve also lost that intensity or drive to write. Don’t get me wrong my love for writing is still there so is my desire to write…it’s just that as I grew older and went farther in school and especially after the death of my father I lost my inspiration to write I guess. With being forced to write long papers in high school and during the time I did first attend college I lost my drive to read for entertainment and to write. Not until my mid 20’s after surviving 2 different domestic situations I found myself wanting to just write again. But this time my writing were mostly dark and depressing and nothing I ever wanted anyone to see.

That’s also around the time I discovered blogs and blogging. Blogging wasn’t anything at the time and the idea of sharing your thoughts and daily activity on the internet wasn’t a completely new idea to me either…but blogging also wasn’t what it is today. At that time blogging was still genuine and real and most bloggers probably had no idea that 1) they could or would eventually get paid to blog and that 2) it would catch on the way it has. Hell if I knew I would have really stuck with my 1st real blog and stayed consistent with it. But I let life situation derail me and keep me from blogging(sounds familiar huh lol). 

But now that I’m older, wiser and really trying to take this blogging thing seriously while also furthering my education and career in the writing/social media/mass media market I’m really in search of my inspiration and gain that passion, love, and desire to write again. I keep hearing from fellow bloggers, friends, family and other loved ones that the key to getting back into the swing of things is to JUST WRITE. Anytime you get a few minutes to yourself…WRITE. When an idea for a blog post pops into your head, don’t trust yourself to remember to blog about it later…WRITE the idea down. And then when you get home set at least an hour aside each day just so that you can focus on WRITING. So yes…I’m short of a hardheaded and a procrastinator and I live off my emotions and allow my emotions and other people to throw me off track but this time I am super duper committed to doing all of these things in the month of April. 

I’ve already started, I actually started last week and that’s what resulted in my latest post for #FridayFavorites. And when I started thinking about the idea for this post I immediately grabbed my iPhone 6s+ and started writing in my Google Docs(I really love this app). And we’ll here I am, 15 mins later and I actually have a new blog post for Yinz guys today. BLOOP BLOOP BLOOP…but I also know I can’t become content with this post I have to keep the momentum going and keep writing. So here’s to trying to figure this whole new journey out and getting my mojo back Yinz guys. 

When you’re feeling uninspired or feeling like you can’t do something that you normally love to do, how do you get your mojo or inspiration back? Do you step away from it for awhile or do you keep doing it until it comes back to you? I would love to know in the comment section below. Also if you have any advice or tricks please let me know below as well…ALL ADVICE IS WELCOMED & NEEDED. But that’s all for today. And like always thank you so much for checking and reading the blog…it seriously means a lot to me. Here’s to a productive week ahead of us…and yet another short week for me lol.

Peace Yinz Guys!!!

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